Often times when we feel unsatisfied with our lives we can get into a mentality of lack. Its really hard in those moments to get back to a state of gratitude and acceptance. The mind loves to latch on to the story of "poor me" and spirals into that negative black hole. Making ourselves the victim might feel good to the ego, but it shuts down the soul and doesn't allow us to open up to our greater possibility. Our intuition gets shut down and our actions reflect it.
The practice of gratitude is nothing new but perhaps this is the first time you've heard of it or you've had a difficult time implementing it. So here are a few tips to get you out of your head and into a state of grace and gratefulness.
- Start a Gratitude Journal
Gratitude Journaling is probably one of the best and easiest ways to get out of the head and onto paper. If you write something down it goes from the formless (the mind) to the physical realm which is dominated by our 5 senses. Once you can use your sight perception to actually view your gratitude on paper, it begins to feel real to the ego dominant mind. This is what makes gratitude journaling so powerful. You can get any notebook you wish that will inspire you to collect your gratefulness daily or as often as possible. You can refer back to your journal when you're feeling depressed to lift your mood and bring you back to the present moment.
- Do Something that brings you Joy
I'm a big fan of engaging in activities that bring you joy, I am not however asking you to disassociate and disconnect from reality. I'm actually asking that you come into a state of gratitude by action, by leading your mind into the action of creating joy to rewire your negative tendencies and come back into grace. When I say grace I mean that place where you are in alignment with your highest self. So go out and take a jog, go to the park, practice yoga, walk along the beach, dance, listen to music, ride your bike... Do what brings you joy!
This goes without saying but for most it can be hard to implement. Meditation doesn't need to be scary or hard. In fact I made an entire meditation series to debunk this myth that meditation takes too much time and is too challenging! Meditation only requires that you sit and be patient, breathe with intention, and watch what happens. Being a witness to our thoughts is a powerful way to see the negative patterns we go into, and once we can see them clearly we can eradicate them. And that my friend is the best way to find gratitude!
- Mantra and Chanting
These are some more tools that use the sense perception of sound and energy to wake up the mind and get out of the ego. This is something that is practiced in traditional Yoga lineages and is something that was prescribed to me by a Swami. You can literally make up any phrase that feels positive and calming or you can use one of thousands that are already used by many people and teachers. When I chant I do so with a mala although you don't have to, but its a nice way to know how long to go for. You can also follow along to a chant or mantra you find through an app, site, or video. The mantra I normally use is "in this moment you have more than enough, you have everything you need". I repeat it until I feel a sense of cleanse and ease and my body is relaxed. You can read more about it on my blog post here.
I hope this helps you to find a bit more balance in your life. If you want to dive deeper into this, I recently came out with my SoulFeed meditation series. Its designed to help you get out of the ego and into a deeper state of consciousness through easy to follow 10 minute guided meditations. Check it out here!